Many bereaved people will have grief bursts or pangs. Grief bursts or pangs are short periods (20-30 minutes) of very intense distress. Sometimes these bursts are caused by reminders of the deceased person. At other times they seem to happen for no reason. It’s important to remember that these bursts of grief are UNPREDICTABLE, which is one of the most difficult aspects for most individuals. Most of us tend to enjoy the fact that we feel in control of our emotions and lives so when things happen that are unpredictable, it can feel very disturbing and difficult to tolerate. However, allowing yourself to endure these distressed episodes, will eventually get us through them.